Male rape.. damn all rapists!!

Suddenly have this urge to blog about our project topic after watching the video on male rape...

Lately we're doing this project on the topic of male rape..
Then realised that there are so many sick people out there sia~

I thought raping girls are pervertic enough liao but to think that there are guy perverts who actually raped guys too!!!

Guys rape guys, imagine that!! And these rapists are not even gays!!! Wa lao!!

Before i research on this project, i never knew that guys can rape guys one lor...or at least not that prevalent. But i realised that there are actually quite a lot of male victims suffering out there.. in fact, 1 in 8 rape cases are males~!!! Especially those male child victims and those prisoners... Poor thing sia... Looks like it's an even blacker world out there than i thought...

Yet, many of the male rape victims chose to suffer in silence... Because in our current society, males are seen and therefore pressured to be strong and infallible. So most people would think that rape wouldn't have happened to males if they hadn't allowed it. Therefore, when a male gets raped, he would actually feel more humiliated than a female victim due to a male's ego thingy, social expectations and pressure... Imagine "weakling" and "not a man" labels being pasted on you... no wonder male rape cases were so underreported.

There was this case in the video, that this boy was raped by this stranger. During the whole process, he was so scared and stiffened that he couldn't defend himself. And he hated himself for that. But what made him hate himself even more is that he actually enjoyed it.

Most people, including even the victim himself, would think he must be a willing party since his body responded during the process. After all, "how can you consider yourself unwilling if you actually were aroused? And were enjoying it too?" ??

Male victims usually felt that they had lost their manhood, their pride, their self-esteem.. most of them even doubted and questioned their sexual preference after that (like "am i gay?"). Even worse, they think that this is their fault, fault for reacting to such violation.

This is the way rapists humiliate their victims, make them feel guilty of their own responses, and thus were more emboldened to continue such inhumane acts since 99% of the time victims would not report. That's why so many male cases were not reported and how so many of these bastard rapists managed to get off scot-free.

However, we have to understand that sometimes our body would respond beyond our control, as in, our body can still respond to sexual stimulation even if we don't consent to it. Being aroused is not equals allowing consent, and having penetration without consent equals rape.

Perhaps, it's the society's stigmatic perception of the infallible male that greatly contributes to this sad phenomenon, that causes male rape victims to suffer in silence. But males are not made of rock after all.. like the female species, they are human beings too and they do have feelings as well~ Females are not the only species who can suffer from rape, males do too, and may even suffer a greater trauma at that.

Sighs... And i thought being a guy would be much better than a girl, in fact i so wished that my next life would be born a guy. But now i realised that being a guy is no easy job too. Ok... guess i'll try to be nicer to guys from now on...